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Post by twopic on Oct 21, 2023 22:19:20 GMT -5
I was wondering if anyone in this forum was a video editor? Since I'm planing on transferring to film school (UCLA/USC) next semester I was wondering if anyone here has a film degree and whether they have any advice initiating a conversation. Since I have trouble talking to people while maintaining eye contact which caused me to be yelled at by my teachers  |
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Post by eidairman1 on Oct 22, 2023 3:44:26 GMT -5
I'm not a film person myself. I presume you are already taking courses in highschool for it?
Yeah shifting your eyes away in convo makes a person feel you are hiding something, or lying. Just plain jane stop it.
Initiating a convo can be in the form of a question or introducing yourself or interjecting in an in progress convo in a courteous manner.
You asking a question here is like asking a question verbally, do that in a personal convo. Question=Quest for opinion I believe.
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Post by twopic on Oct 22, 2023 12:49:50 GMT -5
I see thanks!
And I'm out of High school, I'm currently in CC transferring a 4 year college. But I'm applying to a colleges right now so I'm writing college apps.
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Post by Vinster on Oct 22, 2023 20:20:26 GMT -5
Do you know why you do that? Is it a comfort thing? Confidence thing? Doubt it in a topic that adds to confidence?
How do you do if you try to carry a conversation with yourself while looking in a mirror? Do you still look away?
Vin
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Post by twopic on Oct 23, 2023 19:33:16 GMT -5
Do you know why you do that? Is it a comfort thing? Confidence thing? Doubt it in a topic that adds to confidence? How do you do if you try to carry a conversation with yourself while looking in a mirror? Do you still look away? Vin i often look away even while facing myself in the mirror. idk why that's the case |
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Post by eidairman1 on Oct 23, 2023 20:37:51 GMT -5
Do you know why you do that? Is it a comfort thing? Confidence thing? Doubt it in a topic that adds to confidence? How do you do if you try to carry a conversation with yourself while looking in a mirror? Do you still look away? Vin i often look away even while facing myself in the mirror. idk why that's the case You gotta stop doing that |
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Post by Vinster on Oct 23, 2023 22:02:04 GMT -5
i often look away even while facing myself in the mirror. idk why that's the case You gotta stop doing that I'm with him on this one.
Have you thought about reaching out for therapy to help understand why? or do you likely already know why? I know you said idk... but maybe you have a hunch?
I'm 46 and I still don't know why I have certain ticks. sometimes they are a problem. would be helpful for you to start getting it figured out sooner than later.
Vin
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Post by eidairman1 on Oct 23, 2023 22:45:12 GMT -5
You gotta stop doing that I'm with him on this one.
Have you thought about reaching out for therapy to help understand why? or do you likely already know why? I know you said idk... but maybe you have a hunch?
I'm 46 and I still don't know why I have certain ticks. sometimes they are a problem. would be helpful for you to start getting it figured out sooner than later.
Vin
I had to go through professional speaking, which was a part of my Airman Leadership course in 2009 while I was in the Air Force, It's not a natural feat for me. Looking at the forehead was 1 technique but in personal communication you also get a lot from body language, tone inflection. Case in point is that we must be hungry enough to earn a position in life by being assertive, proactive. A Psycologist/Psychiatrist/Behaviorist might be able to Help, But it seems it might be fear of embarrassment even... |
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Post by twopic on Oct 24, 2023 4:05:34 GMT -5
You gotta stop doing that I'm with him on this one.
Have you thought about reaching out for therapy to help understand why? or do you likely already know why? I know you said idk... but maybe you have a hunch?
I'm 46 and I still don't know why I have certain ticks. sometimes they are a problem. would be helpful for you to start getting it figured out sooner than later.
Vin
I was born with a speech impediment, that's why i didn't like talking to people for long periods of time due to people thinking I was an international student. But yeah like that could be part of why of my lack of eye contact |
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Post by twopic on Oct 24, 2023 4:07:35 GMT -5
I'm with him on this one.
Have you thought about reaching out for therapy to help understand why? or do you likely already know why? I know you said idk... but maybe you have a hunch?
I'm 46 and I still don't know why I have certain ticks. sometimes they are a problem. would be helpful for you to start getting it figured out sooner than later.
Vin
I had to go through professional speaking, which was a part of my Airman Leadership course in 2009 while I was in the Air Force, It's not a natural feat for me. Looking at the forehead was 1 technique but in personal communication you also get a lot from body language, tone inflection. Case in point is that we must be hungry enough to earn a position in life by being assertive, proactive. A Psycologist/Psychiatrist/Behaviorist might be able to Help, But it seems it might be fear of embarrassment even... that was a very helpful tip, thanks for giving me that advice. I have gone to various psychiatrists in the past and they thought i was fine expect that i didn't really focus a lot |
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Post by eidairman1 on Oct 24, 2023 14:04:18 GMT -5
I had to go through professional speaking, which was a part of my Airman Leadership course in 2009 while I was in the Air Force, It's not a natural feat for me. Looking at the forehead was 1 technique but in personal communication you also get a lot from body language, tone inflection. Case in point is that we must be hungry enough to earn a position in life by being assertive, proactive. A Psycologist/Psychiatrist/Behaviorist might be able to Help, But it seems it might be fear of embarrassment even... that was a very helpful tip, thanks for giving me that advice. I have gone to various psychiatrists in the past and they thought i was fine expect that i didn't really focus a lot You have trouble staying focused on tasks? |
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Post by twopic on Oct 24, 2023 18:38:49 GMT -5
that was a very helpful tip, thanks for giving me that advice. I have gone to various psychiatrists in the past and they thought i was fine expect that i didn't really focus a lot You have trouble staying focused on tasks? yep, nearly failed some of my college classes bc of it. |
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Post by Vinster on Oct 24, 2023 21:17:03 GMT -5
That's a rough spot. But holding on to it won't help, baby step through it. over time it'll get better
Vin
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Post by twopic on Oct 24, 2023 22:13:54 GMT -5
I've been improving myself overtime. Back when I created this account in 2020, i was too shy to ask whether i could join the team. But now i gained the confidence to talk to more people
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Post by eidairman1 on Oct 26, 2023 21:08:05 GMT -5
You have trouble staying focused on tasks? yep, nearly failed some of my college classes bc of it. Were you ever diagnosed with ADD? |
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Post by twopic on Oct 27, 2023 19:12:55 GMT -5
I was diagnosed with ADHD
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Post by eidairman1 on Oct 28, 2023 22:06:13 GMT -5
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Post by twopic on Oct 29, 2023 3:09:03 GMT -5
I used to take medication but stopped due to having bad side effects.
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